I’m 95 pounds lighter than I was almost 2 years ago. I am 105 pounds lighter than I was almost 3 years ago. Back when I was 287 pounds, it was nice that men hit on me. It was occasional. It was rare. It was still nice.
Not to much today.
I joined MyFitnessPal as a way to log what I was eating, log my weight, log my inches, track my calories and to, above all, create a community of support with people who want to do the same thing as I want to do: lose weight. I have gained endless friends through MyFitnessPal and it is beyond encouraging to talk to them about our victories as well as our struggles. It makes me feel like we are all in this boat together.
Today, I wrote on MyFitnessPal explaining that I’m feeling a bit of anxiety when it comes to going to the gym and working out. I then received this message:
I love how he explained in the first sentence that this surely was not a flirt, but then explained that it was still a small 2% flirt. This is a 46-year-old man hitting on a 25-year-old young woman on a fucking weight loss website. The rest of the message was just him explaining that he lived close to me and that we should work out together. Does he really think that I would want to work out with a much older man that is hitting on me inappropriately?
I responded and thanked him for his encouragement and completely dodged the question about us working out together.
He then sent me another message with lines like,
i won’t really hit on you much at all :) i’m way more harmless than i talk
fuck EVERYONE at the gym! you’re there for you! ignore everyone. if someone does hit on you, complain to management. if you’re in a good gym they’ll warn the fucker. don’t let strangers chase you out of a health sanctuary :)
I was pissed, to say the very least. I slammed right back with this message:
Me being a woman on the Internet does not give you the authority to harass me. Me being a woman on the street does not give you the authority to harass me. Me being a woman in general does not give you the authority to harass me.
*Drops the mic*